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Jonathan Medina -"You can only get so far alone. Family Engagement will take you to the top and keep you at the top."

"You are a part of our family, and we are here for you." Coco Movie

Michael Jordan, "Talent wins games, but TEAMWORK and intelligence wins championships."

7 E’s of Family Engagement

1. Experienced
2. Excited
3. Energized
4. Encourager
5. Eager
6. Executer
7. Empathetic

1. EXPERIENCED

Students & kids need to be mentored. For overall student success we need to be the kind of parent that gives away our experience. A parent’s experience can save you from making a mistake. A parent’s experience can help you take key steps you may not have thought about. A parent’s experience can help you meet the people (Connections) that will help you with a goal. 

At a summer leadership camp I attended going into my senior year I met several students with the same goals I had. Some students shared experiences on how they had great success on AP exams and little tricks they used. Some shared how they studied for the SAT to get perfect scores. At the same camp we were mentored by Admissions officers from some of the top universities and they shared with us how to have the perfect interview. They told us mistakes to avoid on our applications. The mentors showed us how to write a personal statement that got us accepted to the elite universities. The mentors showed us how to apply to scholarships and win so we could attend the university for FREE. 

The same stories and experiences I learned at summer camp are now going to be passed on to my son and any other future kids I may have. I learned from mentors and other friends' parents as a kid and now I will pass those lessons on to my own kids. BBQ skills I learned from my dad that raised me will be passed on to my son along with the great chicken and fajitas his entire childhood. I am currently learning how to restore classic cars by my dad and those lessons will be passed on to my son on top of some cool cars I might let him drive to school. 

2. Excited

Every child needs an Excited parent ready to join in the child's activities. Excited parent’s can help a child feel motivated on the days that they do not feel motivated. An Excited parent can help a child stay up all night on an important project when they would give up before they have finished. The excited parent can help a child join that club they feel nervous about joining alone. An excited parent will give a child confidence to run for an officer position in the club so that the child may have been nervous about accepting the responsibility. An Excited parent can show support for a child as a sidekick for those times when your child really just need that extra friend. Tell your child you will be there excited for them. Go to the activities and show your excitement. 

3. Energized

Energized parents generate energy on their own. Sometimes you find your child lacks energy. You don’t want to be the kind of parent that lacks energy or worse and sucks all your child’s energy away. The energized parent does the opposite. Energized parents give, grow, & generate energy. Energized parents can come into a group and just from them being there everyone will absorb some energy. This is also something you can learn from your friends that gives you energy. When you meet them it is always like you are meeting your best friend. We as parents can be like our friend with energy and choose to generate the energy for our families.  Put on a big smile and put on energetic body language that just gives you energy. One of the hardest parts about being a leader of your family is trying to give others energy. Keep energy drainers away from your family also. Make sure your children are not around others that don’t bring the energy. 

4,  Encouraging

Encouraging your children and your family help you to overcome the mistakes and obstacles ahead of you. An encouraging parent will help the child when the child is feeling down. Encouraging parents provides that little boost of morale. Encouraging parents will make the family feel like one happy unit.

5. Eager

Eager parents want to be a part of their children's plans, goals, and vision. Eager parents want to compete and win as a family. Eager parents want to put in the extra effort required to make sure their children and family know they are working together. Eager parents don't require extra energy to get them on board with a project or family goal because they are already eager to be involved. Sometimes the hardest part about being a child is trying to get a parent that is not eager to get involved. Eager parents jump right in without much recruiting or begging. Eager parents  jump in and volunteer on projects, pta, & more. 

6. Executer

Executer parents finish promises they make and make their family & children a priority. Executer parents will help to keep the family focused on the important things for the family to win. Many of the other characteristics listed above are very positive, but an executor can be a little ruthless. Not everyone will like executor parents all the time but they will respect the results. Executor parents set the example by not having a problem making a decision. They just want to win. As the great thinker DJ Khaled says, "All I do is WIN." But lets change that to “All our family does is WIN”

7. Empathetic

Empathetic parents make sure that every child is staying happy and doesn't get their feelings hurt. Especially if you are the one being the executor you want to make sure you do not take it too far. Make sure to have high expectations but make sure that your child knows you love them. I met a girl at one school who was so empathetic towards the students that had been bullied that she created an club towards helping students who had been bullied. She wanted to be sure no student felt alone when they are bullied. We as parents want to make sure our child knows we love them and show empathy when they are bullied, fail a quiz, or don’t make the team. Give that empathetic hug, send the nice text, and tell your child you LOVE them.